28 Nov PARSHAS VAYISHLACH: A TALE OF TWO PHILOSOPHIES
In this week’s
parsha we read
about the reunion
of Eisav and
Yaakov after many
years of separation. Eisav, responded
to the generous gifts that Yaakov sent
to him, by saying “I have much. My
brother, keep what is yours.”
[Bereishis 33:9] Yaakov, on the other
hand, answered Eisav, “Please take
the gift I have given you, for G-d has
been gracious with me and I have
everything.” [33:11]
The Chofetz Chaim (1838-1933)
said that this short dialogue sums up
the different approaches to the world
of Eisav and Yaakov. A person who
says “I have much” will be an
unhappy person. There is so much
out there in the world to acquire, and
no one person will ever acquire it all.
Our sages say “Every person passes
from this world without achieving
even half of his desires” [Medrash
Rabbah Koheles]. Therefore,
someone who is focused on what he
does not have will never be happy.
The only person who will be happy
in life is the one who says that “I have
everything that there is to need.”
Physically, he realizes that he does
not have everything in the world. But
the key is knowing that he has all that
he needs to have. If he believes he
has all he needs to have, he truly has
everything.
In conjunction with this thought, Rav
Eliyahu Lopian (1872-1970)
explained the verse at the end of
Birchas HaMazon [Grace After
Meals or “bentching”]. The pasuk
says, “Dorshei HaShem lo yachseru
kol tov” [“Those who seek out
Hashem, will not lack any good.”]
The pasuk does not say that those
who seek out Hashem, in fact, _have_
everything, only that they will not be
_lacking_. This is the greatest
blessing that a person can receive. If
a person feels that he has what he
needs, he will be happy. If, however,
he only feels that he has “a lot,” he
will always want more than he has.
Rav Lopian gave the following
example. A person once took a visitor
to his home into the bathroom, and
opened up the medicine cabinet. The
medicine cabinet was full with
prescription drugs. He proudly
boasted about the value of the
contents of the medicine cabinet.
“Look, I have thousands of dollars
worth of valuables here.” The other
person looked incredulously at his
host and thought to himself, “Big
deal. I have a medicine cabinet and
all I have inside of it is aspirin.”
Who is happier in this example – the
person who has thousands of dollars
worth of medicine, or the person who
does not need the medicine? This is
the difference between “I have much”
and “I have all”.