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    THE QUESTION OF CHARITY-GIVING DURING DAVENING

    It has been my practice,
    with the help of
    Hashem, throughout
    my Rabbonus, to give
    a variety of shiurim
    throughout the night
    of Shavuos. This year,
    from 2:30 to 4:00 a.m., we had a lively
    question and answer session. I’d like to
    share with you, my dear readers, one of
    the inquiries that created quite a spirited
    discussion.
    The question went like this. “Is it proper
    for shuls to allow collectors to come in
    and approach people for money while
    they are davening? Isn’t this an unfair
    distraction when people are trying to
    concentrate on talking to Hashem?” With
    righteous indignation, some pointed out
    that car services park in front of the shul
    with groups of collectors who appear
    in waves, grossly disturbing the flow of
    everyone’s davening. The prayer service,
    they observed, already moves at a quick
    pace and if people are busy with finding
    money, getting change, and dealing
    with niceties, they fall behind in their
    prayers. Wouldn’t it be better to ban such
    activities?

    I recalled, that many years ago as the Rav
    of the Agudas Yisroel of Staten Island I
    was approached with a similar appeal to
    prevent this type of interruption. They
    proposed that perhaps we should do, like
    another Shul in the neighborhood, that
    had the poor people wait outside the Shul
    and collect as the congregants left the
    Shul. In this manner, the meshulachim
    would not interrupt people’s davening.
    I replied rather firmly that, as long as I
    was the Rav of this shul, this change
    will never happen. Surprised by my
    vehemence, they asked me why. I told
    them that the Shulchan Orech says that
    when we daven, we should view ourselves
    as an, “Ani, omeid al hapesach – A poor
    man standing by the door,” as the verse
    describes prayer, “Tefilah l’ani k’yatof –
    A prayer of the poor when he feels faint.”
    Our time, precisely while we are praying
    is especially suited for this handy midah
    k’neged midah, measure for measure:
    “Look Hashem, as I pray and offer my
    hand to the poor, so too please hearken
    to my prayer, the prayer from a poor man
    like me.” The verse also says clearly,
    “V’ani, b’tzedek, echezeh panecha –
    And I, with charity, appear before You.”

    This is the proper accompaniment to our
    prayer.
    I believe that Hashem is sending these
    unfortunate people to us as a gift to
    enhance and strengthen our prayers. As
    we say, “V’ani sefilasi l’cha, Hashem, eis
    ratzon – And I, may my prayers be before
    You, at a time of favor.” It is a great time
    of favor for us when we extend a helping
    hand to another one of Hashem’s children.
    This idea, that the ani is sent to improve
    our prayer, is consistent with the idea that
    Rabbi Akiva told Turnusrufus when he
    asked Rabbi Akiva, “If Hashem loves the
    poor, why doesn’t He take care of them.”
    Rabbi Akiva answered, “So that the rest
    of us will have the benefit of giving
    charity and be saved from the punishment
    of Gehenam.” So, we see the concept that
    the poor are sent for our benefit.
    The Kitzur Shulchan Orech brings from
    the Medrash Shir HaShirim, “Tirah
    d’lo tiftach l’anya, tiftach l’asya – The
    door that does not open for the poor
    person will need to open for a doctor.”
    Thus, the poor person breaking into our
    prayer reverie should not be viewed as
    disturbing. Rather, he can be viewed as
    helping us and saving us. Furthermore,
    the specter of a row of meshulachim
    standing in a line outside a shul in a
    posture of begging always seemed to
    me degrading in the extreme.
    But, another thing struck me during
    this year’s Shavuos night when so
    many people joined the fray as to the
    impropriety of such prayer disturbance.
    I asked them if they thought that this
    sense of irritation is coming from the
    yeitzer tov, the good inclination, or the
    yeitzer hara, the evil inclination. Are the
    champions of banning the meshulachim
    equally as vigilant to keep their phone
    away from their davening? Does
    checking their cellphone occasionally
    at the buzz of a text raise their ire over
    prayer distraction? Or, is it possible that
    their irritation is being slyly motivated
    by the yeitzer hara who is not happy at
    all by the daily spiritual libations of so
    much tzedakah?
    This, by the way, is the normal modus
    operandi of the yeitzer hara. The
    Gemara in Masechtas Berachos [61]
    teaches us that the yeitzer hara is domeh
    l’zvuv, the evil inclination is similar to a
    fly. This comparison is quite surprising
    since the Gemara in Masechtas Baba
    Basra teaches us that the yeitzer hara is
    also the satan and the malach hamaves,
    the prosecutor and the executioner. As
    such, we would more readily think that

    it should be compared to a scorpion, a
    tarantula, or a rattlesnake. However,
    one of the reasons it’s compared to a fly
    is precisely because it does not appear
    threatening. As the Vilna Gaon, zt”l,
    zy”a, informs us in Even Shleimah, the
    yeitzer hara doesn’t tell people of quality
    directly to do bad. They wouldn’t listen.
    He therefore mixes in good to confuse us,
    like in our case where he tries to convince
    us to take the attitude, “The nerve of these
    poor people who come to disturb our
    davening!”
    When I look up wearing my tallis and
    tefillin and I see a hand extended toward
    me, I thank Hashem appreciatively that,
    but with the grace of G-d, it could’ve
    been my hand begging and he could’ve
    been sitting comfortably and davening.
    And then I try to give, grateful for the
    opportunity to show Hashem that I
    help those who are needy, and I reflect,
    “Please, Hashem, help me and answer my
    prayers for I am also in need.”
    May Hashem bless us that we should
    always be able to give and never need to
    take, and be blessed with long life, good
    health, and everything wonderful.