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    Dear Rabbi and Shira,
    I am dating a girl with a generalized Anxiety Disorder. She was very upfront and casually mentioned it after we dated for a
    month. I appreciated and respected her honesty, and we have now been dating for a half a year. We really click and get along well;
    sharing the same lifetime goals, values and dreams. I recently told my father about her anxiety and he is flipping out. I really
    enjoy spending time with her and would like it to work out with her. My father wants me to end the relationship. Does my father
    have a right to be scared?
    -Flipping out in Flatbush

    Dear Flipping out,
    In today’s day and age,
    people are starting to be
    more open about their
    personal mental health and
    BH it has even started to seep
    into the Jewish Orthidox
    community. Kol hakavod
    to her that she was willing
    to share this personal
    information with you and
    Kol hakavod that you are giving her a chance.
    There are many many people walking around with
    a generalized anxiety disorder, some are just too

    scared to admit it and get treatment due
    to the stigma and shidduchim.
    Having a generalized anxiety disorder
    isn’t a death sentence. It is much easier to
    manage than bipolar or schizophrenia.
    It is possible to live a normal balanced
    health life.
    Every couple will have various
    challenges which they will overcome
    together. Understanding each other
    is the most important ongoing conversation that
    you will have throughout your relationship. Your
    friend has no doubt been working with this over

    the course of life. Don’t interrogate her, but strive
    to understand her. How and when does her anxiety
    manifest itself? What has her treatment for it been
    like? How could you be there for her when she’s
    experiencing it?
    Invite your father to do some research about it,
    and speak with a therapist. Ask your father what his
    concerns are, and what does he need to hear to lay
    them to rest.
    We wish you much luck with your relationship!

    Rabbi Reuven and Shira Boshnack