25 Dec I’m a Chosson!

Good news travels fast! This was true even before the era of internet and social media. Nowadays, good news is almost instantaneous so by the time of the writing of this article, most of my dear readers probably know that Hashem has blessed me with a very special kallah, Ms. Shoshi Weiss. The purpose of my column this week is twofold. Firstly, I’d like to relate some details about how, with the help of Hashem, I found my kallah, to give chizuk, encouragement, to the many singles, the widowed, and the divorced who are reading my words. I’d also like to correct a journalistic injustice that was done in the reporting of our engagement. Some well-meaning writer looked on my website and wrote all about me but said nothing about my wonderful kallah. It was so one-sided that it was embarrassing. So I’d like to even things out a bit, giving some information about the wonderful woman I am to marry, b’ezras Hashem.

Firstly, let me tell you something about how we met. I waited three regalim, three festivals after my beloved Rebbetzin’s passing before entertaining any prospects. When I let it be known that I was ready to date, I received dozens of resumes. This is not surprising as I was the “new kid on the block” in a very specialized niche. After perusing the resumes carefully, not one of them felt like a good fit to me. I was disheartened and dejected and actually told one of my close friends that perhaps remarriage for me wasn’t meant to be. I decided to be proactive and knowing Dr. Jack Cohen from TorahAnytime.com, I made an appointment with him and told him carefully exactly who I was looking for. Then I took an important step. I wrote him out a one-thousand dollar check so that he would give the matter his close attention. He responded that such a gesture puts me on the top of the pile. I told him that that was exactly my intention. He then came back to me with two additional shidduchim that were closer to the mark but still not right for me. He then spoke about me to Rabbi Nechemia Blatter, another well-known shadchan, and filled him in about who I was looking for. Rabbi Blatter in turn ate a Shabbos meal with Mrs. Tzipora Levy, a successful therapist and shadchan herself. At this meal, she asked Rabbi Blatter if there was anyone new on the shidduch scene and he answered that there’s Rabbi Moshe Meir Weiss and he described me. “He sounds perfect for my good friend, Shoshi Weiss,” and that’s how our union was born.

I’m sharing with you this trajectory since I fervently believe that it was the one-thousand dollar check that pushed this matter along. The days of waiting for the phone to ring because one is a great catch has long passed. We spend extra money for a good car or vacation. We certainly should use money liberally and generously to encourage people to work on finding us our life-mate.

Now, let me make things a bit more equitable and tell you some things about my extraordinary kallah. She is the daughter of Avigdor Aryeh and Hinda Dancinger of Boro Park. My future shver, Aryeh, is a remarkable holocaust survivor, having survived the Bergen-Belsen death camp at the amazing age of three years old. My Kalla Shoshy has an extraordinary family with four wonderful married children and a fantastic single daughter.Shoshy, is a descendant of the Chayai Adam.She is an extremely talented therapist for the past twenty-two years. As a LCSW-R therapist, she is certified in EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. This is a skill that helps relieve distress and anxiety from traumatic memories. This craft has a wide range of applications dealing with anxiety, depression, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. She also utilizes I.F.S. internal family systems which reveals the unconscious and heals emotional wounds.Besides these methodologies she has many other tools in her repertoire to help her clients. She also facilitates D.B.T. dialectical behavior therapy workshops for women. She is often sent clients by Rebbes, Dayanim, and Rabbonim. My beloved kallah has practices in Monroe and Monsey where she caters to a women-only clientele. She will be honoring her commitments to her clients in Monroe and Monsey until Pesach, and afterwards she will be moving her practice to Staten Island where she will be assuming the role, to my good fortune, as my wife and as Rebbetzin Weiss. As she will be working only two days a week, slots will fill up quickly so you can contact her at 845-270-3699.

I ask all my readers to say a prayer for us, that we should always make each other happy and know only good health and happiness until the coming of Moshiach and we in turn wish all of you long life, good health and everything wonderful.

Please learn, give tzedaka, and daven l’iluy nishmas of Miriam Liba bas Aharon