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    IS ANGER GOOD?

    I. Anger Is Bad
    Anger is a destructive
    force. It does not just
    cloud judgment,
    which would imply
    reliance on instinct. Anger overwhelms
    judgment, taking you in directions to
    which your rational mind and your other,
    less powerful, emotions would object if
    they could. A life full of anger is a life
    full of pain and regrets.
    Rambam (12th cen., Egypt) condemns
    anger completely. He writes (Mishneh
    Torah, Hilchos Dei’os 2:2): “Anger is
    a very bad trait, and it is fitting for a
    person to distance himself from it to the
    other extreme. A person should accustom
    himself to not get angry even about
    something about which it is fitting to get
    angry.” Rambam continues that anyone
    who gets angry is as if he worshipped
    idolatry. While this homily can be taken

    in the direction of self-worship, Rambam
    certainly meant otherwise. Paganism is
    about giving primacy to a person’s animal
    nature. Similarly, anger shuts out all other
    considerations and cedes complete control
    to this natural reaction.
    II. Anger Is Sometimes Good
    However, other Jewish thinkers take a
    slightly more moderate stance toward
    anger. The Mishnah (Avos 5:11) lists four
    types of relationships with anger:
    1. Easily angered and easily appeased
    — the good (appeasal) is negated by the
    bad (anger)
    2. Difficult to anger and difficult to be
    appeased — the bad (appeasal) is negated
    by the good (anger)
    3. Difficult to anger and easily appeased
    — pious
    4. Easily angered and difficult to appease
    — wicked

    It is striking that the Mishnah does not
    even consider someone who never gets
    angry. Some interpret this as recognizing
    that humans are flawed; the ideal of
    never getting angry is aspirational but
    unattainable. For example, Rav Yisrael
    Lipschitz (19th cen., Germany) writes
    that it is impossible for a person to never
    get angry (Tiferes Yisrael, ad loc., Yachin
    n. 87). However, others take instruction
    from this omission. Sometimes anger is
    an appropriate response.
    Rabbeinu Yonah (13th cen., Spain)
    writes: “You should not refrain from
    anger completely because sometimes a
    person is required to get angry for G-d’s
    vengeance like Pinchas” (Commentary,
    ad loc.). Anger is unwise and dangerous
    for the reasons already mentioned. But
    anger is powerful and sometimes we
    need that passion. Without anger, there
    would be no revolutions against tyrants,
    no stamping out injustice, no demand
    to right wrongs. Rabbi Norman Lamm
    has said that Modern Orthodoxy needs
    to be passionate about moderation and
    not moderate about passion. That is the
    Maimonidean path. Rabbeinu Yonah
    argues that achieving success requires
    sometimes replacing moderation with
    passion.
    III. Moshe’s Anger
    Rav Yom Tov Lipmann Heller (17th
    cen., Poland) insists that anger is
    sometimes necessary (Tosefos Yom
    Tov, ad loc.). He points to Moshe as
    an example. When the Jewish soldiers
    returned from their battle against
    Midian with booty, “Moshe became
    angry” (Num. 31:14). Similarly, before
    hitting the rock, Moshe angrily yelled
    at the people, “Listen, you rebels, shall
    we get water for you from this rock?”
    (Num. 20:10). This precedent teaches
    that sometimes anger is a justified
    reaction.
    Rambam (Shemonah Perakim, ch. 4)
    believes that Moshe was only allowed
    to express anger when G-d was angry.
    He could communicate divine anger
    but not express his own. In the latter
    example, Moshe was punished for
    expressing human anger. For Rambam,
    this was setting a terrible example,

    implying to the people that anger is a
    legitimate response to difficult situations.
    Other commentators interpret this episode
    differently, offering a wide variety of
    explanations of Moshe’s sin. For example,
    Ramban (Num. 20:10) says that this anger
    was appropriate and divinely approved.
    IV. Anger at Wickedness
    The anonymously written classical work
    on ethics, Orechos Tzadikim (14th cen.,
    France), routinely describes character
    traits as either good or bad and then, at the
    end of the chapter, shows when they can
    be the opposite. In this sense, the author
    is more Maimonidean than the Rambam.
    Rambam allows for exceptions from the
    Golden Mean; nearly all traits are best kept
    in moderation but a few–anger among
    them–must be kept at an extreme. In its
    chapter on anger, Orechos Tzadikim says
    that this trait, too, can sometimes be used
    in a positive way. When used properly,
    anger can be a tool for discipline.
    Students and children sometimes react
    appropriately to anger. When the angry
    response shocks them into seeing how
    improper their actions were, they may
    change their ways. However, uncontrolled
    anger is never allowed. Anger without
    bounds destroys but within limits can be
    used in a constructive fashion.
    When we see wickedness, we must
    protest. Many today get angry about
    injustice and they are right. When widows,
    orphans and the weak are oppressed, we
    are expected to get angry on G-d’s behalf.
    But we are supposed to get angry not
    just about interpersonal wickedness but
    offense aimed at G-d, as well. Religious
    offenses should hurt us, anger us and
    drive us to protest, as well. Anger can
    be a force of action and positive change.