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    KEDOSHIM: KEDOSHIM TEHIYU

    It states in this week’s
    parashah, Kedoshim Tehiyu, “You shall be
    holy.” A similar pasuk is (Vayikra 11:49),
    “Vehiskadashtem Vihisim Kedoshim,”
    “Sanctify yourself, and you shall become
    holy.” The Chasam Sofer zt’l translates the
    latter pasuk “Pretend you are holy and you
    will become holy.” This is an important
    piece of advice. Above we have discussed
    becoming holy through Torah study. The
    Chasam Sofer tells us another way to reach
    this. One should pretend that he is holy, and
    he will be holy.
    Think about how those who fear Hashem
    would act and act that way as well. It may
    begin shelo l’shmah, but Chazal say “Mitoch
    Shelo L’shmah Ba L’shmah” eventually it
    will be l’shmah.
    The Chinuch (mitzvah 16) writes, “Don’t
    ask me, my children, why Hashem gave us
    so many mitzvos to remember the miracles
    of yetzias Mitzrayim? Wouldn’t one mitzvah
    be sufficient to commemorate the miracle
    and that the memory never cease from our
    children? This isn’t a wise question. Your
    youthfulness brought you to ask such a
    question. Now, my son, pay attention and
    listen to what I tell you. A person becomes

    what he does. His heart and thoughts follow
    his actions, whether good or bad. Even a
    total rasha whose thoughts are corrupt all
    day long, if he devotes himself to studying
    Torah with hasmadah and to keep the
    mitzvos, even when his intentions aren’t
    l’shem Shamayim, he will immediately
    change, and he will begin becoming
    righteous. This is because the heart is drawn
    after one’s deeds. If a person is a perfect
    tzaddik, his heart is pure and straight, he
    desires Torah and mitzvos; however, if he is
    busy doing corrupt deeds, even if only by
    force, with time, he will abandon his
    righteous ways and become a total rasha. It
    is known and true that a person is influenced
    by his deeds. Therefore, Chazal (Makos 23:)
    say, ‘Hakadosh Baruch Hu wanted to give
    merits to Bnei Yisrael, so He gave them a
    large Torah with many mitzvos.’ This is so
    we will always be occupied with Torah and
    mitzvos, and then it will be good for us in
    the end. The good deeds will make us
    righteous, and we will inherit eternal life.
    Therefore, pay close attention to what you
    do because your deeds influence you and
    draw your heart. After you know all of this,
    you won’t ask me why we have many
    mitzvos to remember yetzias Mitzrayim. We
    do many deeds in memory of yetzias
    Mitzrayim, which will cause us to remember,
    as we explained.”

    Rebbe Yochanan of Stolin zt’l said that this
    Chinuch is the foundation of chassidus. As
    the Chasam Sofer taught, “Pretend that you
    are holy, and you will become holy.” Your
    good deeds will influence how you think and
    who you will become.
    The Or HaChaim was once a guest in the
    home of simple, G-d fearing people, and he

    couldn’t understand why he felt a strong
    aura of kedushah in their home. At first, he
    thought they were from the thirty-six hidden
    tzaddikim, but he soon realized that it wasn’t
    so. “So where did this holiness come from?”
    he wondered.
    One day, the family was reminiscing about a
    wealthy guest who visited their home.
    The guest was an old, wealthy man, and the
    family would honor him immensely. Every
    time he came, the elderly man brought
    valuable gifts to each family member.
    However, there was one issue with
    which they didn’t see eye to eye. The
    family enjoyed serving Hashem with
    passion, and this upset the elderly man.
    He believed fervor should be inside
    one’s heart. Externally, he felt, one
    should serve Hashem without any signs
    of enthusiasm.
    On one of his visits the old man said,
    “Why do you say birchas hamazon so
    loud? Hashem hears quiet brachos too.
    Furthermore, your zealous ways make
    your guests feel uncomfortable and
    embarrassed because they feel they
    aren’t as frum as you are. In my opinion,
    it is wrong to say birchas hamazon so
    loudly.”
    The family accepted his mussar and
    betnched in silence.
    The old man was pleased that they
    listened to him and gave each of them
    another gift.
    Sometime later, the old man returned,
    and as always, he gave costly gifts to
    each family member. On Friday night,
    the family began to sing Shalom
    Aleichem joyously and loudly, and the
    old man became edgy once again.
    “There’s no reason for all this fervor!”
    he shouted. “Say it silently!” and the
    family obeyed.
    The old man gave them some more
    presents.
    One year, the old man showed up in their

    home on erev Pesach,
    and he distributed
    presents to the family
    members. The baal
    habayis greeted him
    joyfully and invited
    him to the Seder. The
    old man replied, “I
    can’t be at your Seder if you’re going to
    shout out the hagaddah and act silly. I will
    only join you if you agree to be silent at
    the Seder. Do as I teach you. Keep the
    fervor in your heart. Don’t show it on the
    outside.”
    The baal habayis said that he’d have to ask
    his wife. She said, “When he stole our
    birchas hamazon, I was quiet. Then he
    took away our Shalom Aleichem, and I
    also forgave him. But I refuse to give up
    the Seder night.”
    The old man said, “I shouldn’t have given
    you all those presents since you don’t listen
    to me.”
    The baal habayis was worried the old man
    would ask them to give back all the fancy
    presents he had given them over the years,
    but his wife saw things differently. She said
    to her husband, “Gather all the presents and
    give them back to him. I don’t want them,
    and I don’t want to hear his false rebukes.”
    The Or HaChaim listened in astonishment as
    the family repeated this story. He said, “Now
    I understand why there’s a holy aura in your
    home. That man was the yetzer hara trying
    to uproot your temimus. The, Chuchmas
    Nashim, the wife’s wisdom, Bunsa Beisa,
    saved your home.”
    It is important to show enthusiasm and
    excitement for the mitzvos. Even if initially,
    you are pretending that you are excited with
    the mitzvos, this will influence your heart. It
    is possible that sometimes the family didn’t
    have genuine fervor when they benched,
    sang Shalom Aleichem, and made the Seder.
    Still, their actions demonstrated enthusiasm
    and excitement, which opened their hearts
    until it became genuine.
    The Mesilas Yesharim (ch.12) writes,
    “Acting with zerizus will create hislahavus.
    When one feels himself doing a mitzvah
    with eagerness, it will ignite a fire in his
    heart. If, however, he moves about
    sluggishly, his spirit will die down and be
    extinguished. Experience testifies to this.
    You know that the most preferred avodas
    Hashem is with the heart’s desire and the
    longing of the neshamah, as it states
    (Tehillim 63:2), My soul thirsts for You; my
    flesh pines for you.’ If this feeling isn’t
    burning in his heart, it is good for him to act
    with zerizus because this will rouse the
    yearning in his heart. His outer deeds will
    awaken his inner feelings.”
    This is the lesson of “Vehiskadashtem
    Vihisim Kedoshim” and “Kedoshim Tehiyu”
    Act like those who are holy, like those who
    desire the mitzvos, and it will become your
    reality.