25 Nov LIVING TO EAT, EATING TO LIVE

In Order to Live
We need to eat and
drink in order to
live. After eating and
drinking, waste must be
expelled. We must have
the proper approach
to the food we take
into our mouths and
understand the focus of
food in Yiddishkeit. Do

we live to eat or eat to live?
We know that food can be a source of illness
and undermine our health. If we overindulge
in food, so much damage can result that
Chazal say that just as we should daven that
Torah should go inside us, we should daven
that delicacies do not enter our stomach.
The desire to eat makes a person coarse. Yet
is food a very bad thing? Every significant
event on the Jewish calendar is marked by
meals—three meals on Shabbos followed
by melaveh malkah, meals on Yom Tov, and
seudos mitzvah for various occasions. In
the Beis Hamikdash, the korbanos offerings
involved eating. Is food, then, good or bad?
When we eat food because it is a mitzvah,
does it elevate us or lower us spiritually?
Both sides of the coin are true, and it all
depends on how we view food. Obviously,
the easiest recourse would be to refrain
from eating since it can result in a spiritual
downfall. However, this is not possible since
we need food in order to survive.
Eating is part of what we do as we aspire to
be a holy Jew. The desire for food is harder
to control than other desires since one who
wishes to refrain from other desires can
avoid them altogether. However, food is
essential to life. Because of this, we must
make sure to eat properly. Since Hashem
made it necessary for us to eat, and this is
something that we do on a daily basis, we
must understand what eating is all about.
Perhaps we need to ponder: Why do we get
more excited over a good piece of steak than
a good piece of Gemara?
With All of Our Actions
The Shulchan Aruch says that we should
have Hashem in mind with all of our actions,
even when it comes to mundane acts such as
eating and drinking. A person should have
in mind that he is eating to live, which is
praiseworthy. The Shulchan Aruch says that
this seems to be the ideal, although most
people cannot achieve this level on a daily
basis. The Mishnah Berurah says that before
eating and drinking, pious people would say
that they are eating and drinking in order to
have strength to serve Hashem.
In truth, Hashem provided us with food on
this world so we can enjoy it. The Meshech
Chochmah states that when Hashem told
Adam, “From all the fruits of the garden
you may eat,” it was a mitzvah for him to
eat. The Yerushalmi says that when a person

leaves this world, he will have to answer
to Hashem for not tasting certain foods that
Hashem created.
In the parshash of the sorer u’morer, the
pasuk says that he does not listen to his
parents’ voices nor walk in their path, and
his parents describe him as being a glutton
and drunkard. What makes his behavior
so predictable, even though he did not yet
commit a crime, is that he stuffs food down
his throat without exercising self-control.
Therefore, we do not allow him to live.
Although there never was such a wayward
son, we learn about this concept in order to
reap reward.
Growing up in a home with fancy foods and
delicacies and an expensive wine collection
leads to the downfall of the sorer u’morer.
Of course, various dishes should be served,
but we must be disciplined. Do we own
food, or does it own us? Do we rejoice on
Shabbos and Yom Tov with divrei Torah
and zemiros, or do we spend all our time
talking about food? A person who is a slave
to his stomach is rarely a servant of Hashem.
We must pay attention to the food we eat.
Although it tastes good and we keep on
eating, we must realize what the food is
doing to us.
A Constant Battle
Our relationship with food is a constant
battle. Lechem, bread, has the same letters
as the word milchamah, battle. Eating, in
essence, is a battle: We have an appetite and
a desire to eat, yet there is a struggle to eat
the right foods in the proper amounts. Will
the food overcome us, or will we overcome
the fight?
The pasuk says, “You set a table before me
in the presence of my adversaries.” Harav
Tzadok explains this in the following way:
when I sit at the table and see the many
appetizers, main dishes, and desserts, I
am across from my adversaries. Why did
Hashem create us in such a way that we
constantly face this battle and our stomachs
do not shut down when we are full?
The Gemara says that Kiddush is only
recited when there is a seudah. Besides for
the halachah, there is a deeper meaning
here as well. There is kodesh, holiness,
only at the time of our meals (Kiddush and
kodesh share the same root word).[19] The
world today is filled with obese people who
overeat. Hashem wants us to make choices
that give our life meaning. If we had been
preprogrammed to act in a certain way,
our lives would lack meaning. The more
disciplined we are, the more we are like
Hashem. We must be mindful when we eat.
Hashem gave us food to enjoy, but when we
cross the border and eat more than we need
and at times when we do not need to eat,
such as very late at night, we lose the battle.
A Direct Connection
We must realize that food was given to us

so we can survive. Hashem is the one who
gives us life, and we need food in order to
sustain this life. Food is able to sustain us
because it contains a spark of Hashem and
His holiness. Each time we eat, we are
connecting to Hashem, the source of life.
More than any other physical action, eating
serves to connect us to Hashem. Even a
tzaddik who is immersed in Torah learning
must stop to eat since a person who does not
eat will forget who is the source of life.
We must think about the fact that eating
gives us a direct connection to Hashem.
A person who does not eat will die, and a
person who eats will live. This is the method
Hashem chose to ensure that we live. If we
keep this in mind, then each time we eat,
we will connect to Hashem through food.
Eating in this manner should bring us to
feelings of humility since without the energy
that Hashem put into food, we would not be
able to survive. Hashem required us to eat in
order to connect to Him.
If we take life for granted, we will not think
about Hashem. We therefore must stop
whatever we are doing and eat in order to
remember Him. Hashem does not want us
to live a life of ingratitude. The snake must
spend its life on the ground and find its
food in this manner, yet this is a curse. We,
on the other hand, must work for our food.
Although it may seem like a curse that we
have to work to obtain food, this is really a
blessing because it enables us to connect to
Hashem.
The obsession that people have with food was
meant to be an obsession for a relationship
with Hashem. If, when we eat, we do not
think that we are connecting to Hashem, we
will ultimately forget Him. A person who
indulges in food will inevitably be affected
by this. Such a person will have no kedushah
and will not remember Hashem. He will not
be able to daven properly, and his heart will

be as hard as a stone.
Before We Eat
Before we eat, we should think about the
food we are eating. We should ask ourselves:
Am I an animal that indulges in every
desire, or am I eating for a purpose? While
we should enjoy our food, we must realize
its purpose and feel grateful to Hashem for
it. One should realize that the good taste of
the food does not come from spices or other
ingredients; it comes from Hashem.
One should also realize that by eating the
food, we are fulfilling the purpose of why
this food was brought into the world, which
is to serve the person eating the food. One
would think that food only serves the person
who is eating it, but the deeper idea is that
food is brought into this world for us to
enable it to fulfill its purpose—which is to
lift us up by eating it for the proper reasons.
There is a reason why this food came your
way.
The brachah we recite before eating should
put us in the proper frame of mind and
help us to remember that the food is from
Hashem. Therefore, we must be careful
not to swallow our words when reciting a
brachah and prepare ourselves to have the
correct mindset. The food should not be
so important to us that one does not think
about the brachah and runs through it so he
can get to his piece of meat, losing out on
making a brachah properly. The brachos we
say emphasize that Hashem is in control of
everything, and it enables one to realize that
there is a Creator in the world who made this
food.
It is also important to eat slowly since eating
quickly fuels one’s desire for food. When
a person eats quickly, he is usually not
thinking about Hashem. When we chew our
food slowly, we can think about the purpose
of the food and realize that we are meant to
come close to Hashem through eating.