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    PESACH: REACHING THE LEVEL OF AHAVAS CHINAM

    Rav Avraham Yitzchok
    HaKohen Kook (1865-
    1935), the first Chief
    Rabbi of Eretz Yisrael
    in modern times, was an
    outstanding genius, but
    he was a controversial
    figure. Certain rabbinic personalities of the
    “old yishuv” took issue with many of his ideas
    and positions. Rav Kook was speaking
    somewhere, and a zealot started yelling at him
    in the middle of his drasha. The outburst did
    not faze Rav Kook — he continued with his
    drasha — but it was certainly a bizayon
    (embarrassment) for this Torah giant.
    Later that same year, Pesach time rolled
    around. Rav Kook distributed maos chittim to
    those with financial needs for the upcoming
    holiday. He presented his gabbai [secretary]
    with a list of the poor people to whom the
    charity funds should be distributed. Lo and
    behold, this very zealot who had so
    inappropriately embarrassed the Chief Rabbi
    earlier that year, was on the list to receive
    maos chittim.
    The secretary told Rav Kook, “I refuse to give
    him the money! How could you give such a
    person money after what he did to you?” Rav
    Kook told his gabbai, “If you do not deliver
    the money to him, I will!” The Chief Rabbi

    explained his rationale for giving him the
    money: Chazal say that the Beis HaMikdash
    was destroyed because of sinas chinam
    (unjustified hatred of one Jew for another).
    There is a famous maxim that if the Beis
    HaMikdash was destroyed because of sinas
    chinam, the only way it will be rebuilt is with
    ahavas chinam (unjustified love of one Jew for
    another).
    Rav Kook explained: Ahavas chinam means
    that you like the person for no reason, just like
    sinas chinam means that you hate the person
    for no reason. But Rav Kook analyzed as
    follows: When one Jew loves another Jew for
    “no reason,” that is not really ahavas chinam,
    because there is a mitzvah of vahavta l’reyacha
    ka’mocha (love your fellow Jew like yourself).
    I need to love every Jew according to Biblical
    law. Thus, the fact that I love another Jew
    cannot be called ahavas chinam — that is an
    ahava for which we are bound by oath from
    the time of Har Sinai! What then is ahavas
    chinam, asked Rav Kook? It is when a person
    insults you and embarrasses you, and you have
    every justification in the world to put him on
    your ‘enemies’ list and to totally ignore him,
    and nevertheless you show him love and
    compassion, and give him money when he is
    in need. That is ahavas chinam.
    Pesach is approaching. During Nisan, the

    Jews were redeemed, and in Nisan we are
    destined to be redeemed. This is the time to
    practice “ahavas chinam.” This is conjecture
    on my part, but perhaps this is why Rav Kook
    waited until before Pesach to give him money.
    He specifically wanted to do an act of ahavas
    chinam for which we will merit the rebuilding
    of the Beis HaMikdash — during the month in
    which we are destined to be redeemed.
    The Ben Ish Chai cites an insight on the
    following question from the Mah Nishtana:
    “On all other nights we do not dip even once;
    tonight, we dip two times.” The Ben Ish Chai
    explains that one dipping commemorates
    “And they dipped the tunic in blood”
    (Bereishis 37:31), and the other one
    commemorates “You shall take a bundle of
    hyssop and dip it into the blood…” (Shemos
    12:22). At the Seder, we dip one time to
    commemorate the brothers taking Yosef’s coat
    and dipping it in blood and we dip a second
    time to commemorate the bundle of hyssop
    (agudas eizov) that we dipped in blood in
    Egypt on the night prior to the Exodus. The
    Ben Ish Chai comments: If we want to atone
    for the sin of hatred between brothers, the way
    to do it is to take an “agudas eizov,“ i.e., to
    come together as an agudah achas (a unified
    group) to do Hashem’s will with total
    dedication.

    Tisha B’Av is normally the time that we talk
    about ahavas chinam. However, as we all
    know, the truth of the matter is that there is a
    tremendous connection between Tisha B’Av
    and Pesach. The first day of Pesach always
    falls on the same day of the week as the
    coming Tisha B’Av. We know, likewise, that
    we eat an egg by the Seder, to remind us of the
    Destruction of the Bais Hamikdash, to remind
    us of Tisha B’Av. There is thus a thematic
    connection between Pesach and Tisha B’Av.
    This is the connection, says the Ben Ish Chai:
    If we want to achieve atonement for the sin of
    dipping Yosef’s tunic in blood, if we want to
    merit the promised redemption in Nisan, the
    way to achieve that is “and you will take a
    bundle of hyssop” – to forget some of our
    petty differences, and to in fact come together
    b’agudah achas, so that, Please G-d, “we will
    eat there from the sacrifices and the Paschal
    offerings” speedily in our days, Amen.