24 Feb PURIM: GREATEST ACCOLADE GIVEN TO MORDECHAI
The last pasuk in
the Megillah reads
“For Mordechai,
the Yehudi, was
viceroy to King
Achashveirosh; he
was a great man among the Jews, and
found favor with the multitude of his
brothers (ratzui l’rov echav); he
sought the good of his people and
spoke with peace to all his posterity.
(v’dover shalom l’chol zar’oh)”
[Esther 10:3]
The Ibn Ezra makes two very
interesting comments on this pasuk.
He says regarding the phrase “he
found favor with the multitude
(literally the majority) of his brothers,”
that because of jealousy, a person
cannot find favor with everyone. It is
impossible to be perfectly popular.
Then the Ibn Ezra comments on the
buildup of praises that we have in the
pasuk. The concluding, and seemingly
greatest praise is that “he spoke with
peace to all his posterity.” The Ibn
Ezra comments that this means he
was on good terms with all his
children and grandchildren.
This seems anti-climactic. Is this the
greatest thing we can find to say about
Mordechai HaYehudi? The Ibn Ezra
says this is indeed a great praise.
Think of all the children and
grandchildren that Mordechai had.
Did each one turn out exactly like
Mordechai would have wanted? If
Mordechai would have wanted all his
children and grandchildren to become
Torah scholars, do we expect that is
the way it would have worked out?
Or, if he wanted them all to be expert
business people, do we expect that is
the way it would turn out? Maybe
there would be a black sheep in the
family that became a scholar!
And yet, he spoke in peace to all
descendants. He was
able to maintain a
peaceful relationship
with all his children and
all his grandchildren.
This, the Ibn Ezra tells
us, is a great thing.
Because of the natural
fear that children have
towards parents, it is not
always true that there is a
loving relationship
between parents and
children. Therefore, if
Mordechai could
maintain such a
relationship, this is
indeed the highest
accolade that the Torah
can offer him.
I think this is a great ethical lesson for
us. We try to raise children, and we
have certain ideals and standards of
how we would like our children to be.
It does not always turn out like that.
But we should always strive to
maintain a relationship where we can,
at least, speak peacefully with all our
offspring.