30 Aug SDPEAK YOUR VUES WITH THE VUES MASTER
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UPSTATE
Dear Vues Master:
I can’t believe how many people are upstate this
week! I know Yom Tov doesn’t start until the
end of September but I don’t remember so many
people being upstate the last week of August. It’s
great for people that have businesses upstate.
YH
Vues Master’s Note: The beautiful weather
is just another reason why people are sticking
around this year!
TIPS EXPENSE
Dear Vues Master:
This past week I had to give out $300 in tips to my
son’s counselors. Am I the only one that thinks
that it’s crazy that after spending over $4000 on
camp this summer that I also have to give $300
in tips? I understand that the counselors should
make something, but it’s really expensive.
Susan Klein/Flatbush
Vues Master’s Note: The counselor works extremely
hard and does not get paid. He relies on
the tips. It is important to teach your children the
inyan of hakaras haTov.
COUNTRY VUES
Dear Vues Master:
It’s so sad that the summer is coming to an end. I
just want to say Thank You to the Country Vues.
We love your paper and can’t wait until next
summer. We live in Florida and come up for the
two months of the summer and wish we had a
paper like yours in Florida.
Big Country Vues fans
Vues Master’s Note: Thanks. You know you
can always read us online at: jewishvues.com
throughout the year.
PARKING GALORE
Dear Vues Master:
For the last month I have actually enjoyed shopping
in Boro Park. I’ve had no problem finding a
parking spot. No crazy lines. Why does the summer
have to end?
Menachem Singer/Midwood
Vues Master’s Note: I guess all good things
come to an end. It was great while it lasted.
HIGH EXPECTATIONS
Dear Vues Master:
Shalom u’vracha!
Why do I feel pressure from my kids that we
have to do something the week between camp
and school? I spent so much money on them this
summer.
Vues Master’s Note:What, shopping for school is
not enough of an adventure?
SAD
Dear Vues Master:
It’s so sad that three people drowned in White
Lake this past Sunday. An 18-year-old from
Long Island is dead and a cousin says one of
two family members critically hurt trying to
save him has also passed away after an end-ofsummer
swim in White Lake turned tragic a day
ago, police and family said Monday. State Police
said the initial victim, Basir Amin of Bellerose,
had been swimming when he “began to
struggle in the deep portion of the lake.” His
21-year-old sister, Nasrin Amin, and 34-yearold
uncle, Alfrid Haider, leaped in to try to save
him but all three went under the water and did
not resurface, State Police said. They were underwater
for a “period of time,” they added.
Hatzolah & Emergency responders arrived
at the lake around 2:15 p.m. for the reported
drowning. Divers from the fire department
pulled out all three family members and started
life-saving efforts. The victims were taken to
a hospital, where Basir Amin was pronounced
dead. His sister and uncle were listed in critical
condition earlier Monday, but by the afternoon,
the uncle had died. The cousin said the sister
was still hospitalized.
HT
Vues Master’s Note: Swimming is an important
craft to have! One must know how to swim!
LANGUAGES
Dear Vues Master:
Why do all signs in Israel have Hebrew,
English and Arabic? Why even
accommodate the Arab population?
If they are Israeli they should learn
Hebrew and for tourists the English
translation is enough. Why the Arabic?
Even America doesn’t have Spanish
on signage and there is a huge Latino
population.
RW
Vues Master’s Note: Don’t you know?
Israel tries to please the world but
pleases nobody!
MISER
Dear Vues Master:
A wealthy miser was gravely ill. His
doctors told his wife to prepare for the
worst. Only a miracle could save him.
With his last ounce of strength, the miser
raised his head from the pillow and
instructed his wife to go to the Rebbi
and make a large donation so that the
Rebbie should pray that his life be
spared. She did as he requested and
gave the Rebbie a $10,000 donation.
Within hours her husband had a miraculous
recovery. But when the miser
learned that his wife had given the
Rebbie $10,000, his face turned purple
with rage. “But you yourself told me
to give the money, “ his wife reminded
him. “So what? “ he roared. “Couldn’t
you see that I was delirious? “
MB
Vues Master’s Note: Hey, He could get
his money back and die!
WHIPPED
Dear Vues Master:
You now have to be 21 years old to
buy canned whipped cream in New
York. The goal of the law is to combat
the use of whipped cream chargers,
also known as “whippits,” as a way to
get high. The whipped cream chargers
contain nitrous oxide, which is known
to cause hearing loss, brain damage,
limb spasms, heart failure or suffocation,
according to the Drug Enforcement
Administration. Is this normal?
Are you ok with this? So now you
can vote without an ID but you can’t
purchase whipped cream. What is this
country coming to?
FS
Vues Master’s Note: We know the progressives
have their agenda. You can
buy marijuana as much as you want!
DANGERS OF TECHNOLOGY
Dear Vues Master:
As it seems and as many are realizing,
social media has and keeps on destroying
the world and minds of society.
With all the trending dangerous tik tok
stunts that kids think are good ideas to
do, to the hatred and false information
that spreads like wildfire across the
platforms, along with all the virtual
“happiness” that people try to portray
via pictures and posts. We live in such
a fake world nowadays due to this, and
people on social media just don’t understand
how toxic it is or why they
are feeling such toxicity constantly as
they “harmlessly” check on this person
or that and see how everyone ELSE is
so “happy” aside from themselves. It
causes jealousy,anger,frustration and
all these emotions towards nothing
but a facade. Is it too late to stop this
social media mess or will more and
more people realize that social media
does not contribute to the world, aside
for harm, and finally disconnect from
all these platforms? Honestly the only
thing social media helped was to reconnect
to people in the past. But if
they are from the past then why reconnect?
In most cases if they aren’t important
enough for you to be in touch
with then probably no one is missing
out on anything by not having their
profile as a “friend”. Seriously this
mess is getting out of hand with the
hatred,fear, misinformation, and all
the rest that social media spews out to
the already messed up world we live in
today. So will you disconnect?
RW
Vues Master’s Note: Time to start banning
Social Media. It is corrupting our
youth!!
DUMB AND DUMBER
Dear Vues Master:
I have seen some really horrific signs
in Israel. I have seen signs that denigrate
women. I have seen hateful signs
against Charedim and hateful signs
against Chilonim. I have never seen a
sign as stupid as the one that is calling
for people to travel to Uman, Ukraine
on Rosh Hashanah (in one month). In
all honesty I’ve always thought going
to Uman was stupid, and I thought the
people who went during COVID were
incredibly stupid, but going to Uman
while Russia is bombing Ukraine? The
most stupid. This can cause the loss of
life. What is wrong with people?
RUP
Vues Master’s Note: Some people just
don’t listen to anything! They do what
they want to do.
A PLEA TO SHADCHANIM
Dear Vues Master:
It is with a troubled heart that I write
this letter. I do not have an agenda nor
do I have an ax to grind. I just wish to
bring up a very painful issue to me. It
is about Shadchanim. I have spoken to
a few people who have also had very
negative interactions with them. I
wish to make an important disclaimer.
Of course, there are many wonderful
shadchanim who only mean the best
and try their best. I have a son who is
20 and I have just begun the Shidduch
parsha and have a complicated family
situation: We are a blended family. Yes,
I understand not everyone can think of
a suitable match, but I have been treated
with total disrespect. The following
are some of the comments I got: I had
sent a shadchan a picture of my blended
family and she must have forgotten
the details. She called me up and said
who are all the others in the picture?
So, I apologized and explained that
maybe I was not clear, that we are a
blended family. She emailed me back,
“count your numbers before you count
your blessings!” Meaning, I should
be aware of how many children I have
before I speak to a shadchan. She did
later apologize. Another shadchan had
this to ask after she heard that this was
my second marriage, “who is your ex
married to today? And who are his siblings?
And who were his children mishaduch
with?” Another shadchan put
me on the spot and asked me, “is your
son a top learner?” Needless to say, I
did not hear from any of them. My son
may or may not be a top learner, but
is that the only thing girls are looking
for? Derech Eretz Kadma L’Torah-Yes
my son is a boy with beautiful midos,
and may he be zoche to strive in learning.
I went many nights crying myself
to sleep. Shadchanim- I call out to
you, you are doing avodas Hashem
and helping Klal Yisroel, please from
the bottom of a broken heart be more
respectful, understanding and courteous.
And when a shidduch may prove
to be a bit challenging, and may take
up extra time, know you are being a
shaliach of Hashem and may you be
zoche to have much hatzlochoh in
your Avodah!
LG
Vues Master’s Note: I feel your pain.
But please don’t paint all shadchanim
with the same brush. There are some
very nice one’s out there.
RELIGIOUS FREEDOM
Dear Vues Master:
With the current makeup of the Supreme
Court, Yeshiva University decided
the time was right to ask for the
legal right to block the club. They’re
claiming it violates their First Amendment
rights. The Roshei Yeshiva at RIETS
have long opposed the club, but
previous efforts to shut it down were
blocked by NY courts. Let’s daven
that their request is granted, and the
club gets shut down permanently.
HW
Vues Master’s Note: It is amazing how
progressives are pushing their Atheism
and immorality on all Religious
people! It is called eating fleishigs virtually!
MARRIAGE CRISIS
Dear Vues Master:
According to Israel’s Bureau of Statistics,
most Israelis are marrying considerably
later than they did 30 years
ago. In 2020, the average age of a
man marrying for the first time was
26.9. In 1970 it was 25. Among chareidim,
the average age in 2020 was 22.5
compared to 28.9 for the rest of the
population. Due to the late-marriage
phenomenon, the number of unmarried
men aged 25-29 rose from 28% in
1970 to 65% two years ago.
MI
Vues Master’s Note: Maybe let Hashem
help our Shidduch crisis. We can
come up with many ideas but things
constantly change!
MORE LAWS
Dear Vues Master:
ID checks for whipped cream are rolling
out at stores in New York as more
retailers begin to enforce a year-old
state law banning the sale of whipped
cream canisters to anyone under 21,
Fox News reports. The law passed last
year amid concern that teenagers are
increasingly getting high by inhaling
the nitrous oxide used as a propellant
in the canisters, according to the Albany
Times Union. The first offense
of selling whipped cream canisters to
someone under 21 comes with a $250
fine, with fines of up to $500 for subsequent
violations. Nitrous oxide, or
“laughing gas,” is a dissociative anesthetic
that can be inhaled by discharging
nitrous gas cartridges known as
“whippets,” according to the Alcohol
and Drug Foundation. In addition to
short-lived euphoria, the drug can also
cause loss of blood pressure, fainting,
heart attack and sudden death. Potential
long-term effects include memory
loss and psychosis.
WC
Vues Master’s Note: There we go
again some more crazy laws! Maybe
have the illegal immigrants vote on
this!
ACCOUNTABILITY
Dear Vues Master:
One year later, former President Donald
Trump says there still hasn’t been
any accountability for the botched
withdrawal from Afghanistan. Trump
says it’s the most embarrassing moment
in U.S. history., Hannity reports.
Trump shared his thoughts on TRUTH
Social over the weekend. “No resignations
or firings for the disastrous
manner in which we surrendered in
Afghanistan. The military should have
left last, when everything else was
done and accounted for – NOT FIRST.
Perhaps the most embarrassing and
demeaning moment in our Country’s
history!” President Biden released a
statement last week, acknowledging
the 13 U.S. service members who lost
their lives during the evacuation. “Our
nation will forever mourn their sacrifice
and honor the memory of those
13 precious souls, stolen from their
families, loved ones, brothers- and
sisters-in-arms far too soon while performing
a noble mission on behalf of
our Nation,” Biden said. “They were
heroes, working to save lives as part of
the largest airlift evacuation operation
in our history,” he continued. “The example
of their bravery and selflessness
will live forever as a testament to the
very best of our American character.”
“In the wake of the horrific attack outside
Kabul airport, we have redoubled
our relentless global campaign against
ISIS and other terrorists who threaten
Americans. In February, we took out
the global head of ISIS in Syria, and
last month, in Kabul, we eliminated
the leader of al-Qaeda,” Biden said.
“We now maintain pressure against
terrorist threats without keeping thousands
of troops in harm’s way on the
ground in Afghanistan. And my Administration
will continue to hunt
down terrorists who seek to harm the
United States, wherever they may be.”
GOP House leaders Kevin McCarthy
and Steve Scalise are also calling for
accountability for Afghanistan. We
have a responsibility to ensure there
is accountability for the terrible decisions
that led to their deaths,” House
Minority Leader Kevin McCarthy
tweeted. “Make no mistake: There
will be accountability for the failed
leaders responsible for this tragedy,”
Scalise says.
JT
Vues Master’s Note: How can you
expect accountability when the FBI
refuses to investigate Hunter Biden’s
computer!!
SHIDDUCHIM
Dear Vues Master:
Over the last month I have found that
three of my friends’ kids and two relatives
got engaged after going out with
the first person they ever went out with.
Not only that, it was the first time the
other side went out with someone else
as well. Is that a little crazy? I know
that people do a lot of research these
days before going out on shidduchim,
but don’t you think people should go
out with a few people before making a
commitment like marriage?
GH
Vues Master’s Note: Look, whatever
works. Sometimes it is good that they
get engaged when they are young and
ignorant and grow together. Obviously
it is all from Hashem!
MORE LAWS
Dear Vues Master:
This past Shabbos one of my son’s
friends came over to the house for a
play date and he told us that his Yeshiva
does not allow him to wear clips in
his yarmulka because it’s begged esha.
I never heard of this before and think
it’s crazy. What do you think?
A Flatbush mother
Vues Master’s Note: Every yeshiva
has its own set of rules and families
should choose a yeshiva that reflects
their values.
DON’T DEMONIZE THE
INTERNET
Dear Vues Master:
The internet is a tremendously powerful
tool which can destroy a person if
used incorrectly. But let’s not just demonize
the internet. Let us appreciate
the chessed Hashem for creating the
internet for Klal Yisroel. I would speculate
that the main source of parnassah
for Chareidi Yidden entering the business
world is based online. Kollel people
without even a high school education
are earning a respectable living by
selling online primarily on Amazon.
When the internet is used correctly
with a filter & yiras shomayim it becomes
a tzinor of shefa & brocha for
Klal Yisroel. Let’s not be kefuyei tova
to the Ribono Shel Olom by demonizing
this gift he gave us. Let’s use it
responsibly.
Chaim L
Vues Master’s Note: This may come as
a shock to you children, but people got
along fine before the internet. People
bought and sold goods. They followed
the news. They invested. They entertained
themselves. They even knew
how to communicate in writing and
by talking to each other. If you want
to discuss an invention that really improved
life, consider antibiotics, anesthetics
for surgery, indoor plumbing
(toilets), and refrigeration.ues Master’s
Note: This may come as a shock
to you children, but people got along
fine before the internet. People bought
and sold goods. They followed the
news. They invested. They entertained
themselves. They even knew how to
communicate in writing and by talking
to each other. If you want to discuss
an invention that really improved life,
consider antibiotics, anesthetics for
surgery, indoor plumbing (toilets), and
refrigeration.
DAVENING FOR A SHIDDUCH
Dear Vues Master:
I always think about how there are so
many places in Tanach where people
daven to be bentched with children.
I’m wondering if there are any places
where people daven for a shidduch. Is
this a new nisayon? The only one I can
think of is Leah davening to not marry
Eisav.
Sora K
Vues Master’s Note: We find that both
Avraham and Eliezer davened for Yitzchok’s
shidduch. The Baal Haturim
says that Yitzchok was mesaken Mincha
which is a good time to daven for
shidduchim.