13 Sep Speak Your Vues
NOT IN GOOD TASTE
Dear Editor:
I am writing this after seeing something at the wedding of a Kallah who I know as a very eidl tzniuskike girl. My limud zchus is that she just did not think about it before allowing her friends to get her (literally) into the middle of this. The issue is the shtick, or meshugass, called the parachute, which has been appearing on the dance floor of your friends’ weddings. Unlike the maypole umbrella, which (as few people know) has its origins in American Indian avoda zorah, there is probably nothing inherently wrong halachachly with this shtick but tznius and eidlkeit should prevail over mere halacha, especially on the night when you are about to establish your own mikdash me’at. The first time I saw this parachute, I thought that the dancers were picking up the kallah’s gown and dancing under it. If you’d step away from the circle and watch for a few moments, you’ll see what I mean; a big white round shmatta held on by dancing girls, with someone dancing in the middle with the kallah. There are so many creative ideas, if you want shtick and the photos that they generate that are beautiful yet eidl. (refined). Think about it. May you and your chosson be zoche to build a bayis neeman b’yisroel. Wishing you all the best. Mazel Tov.
Shira Weiss.
Editor’s Note: I agree with you that anything done in poor taste should not be done at a wedding, however, certain things may be distasteful to a few people and completely innocuous to others.
ECLIPSE
Dear Editor:
Does the recent eclipse have any connection to the hurricanes that have been storming around recently?
Rachel M.
Editor’s Note: Everything Hashem does is with reason. We are not here to figure out what Hashem’s reasons are, but we definitely should take heed and become better people so next year may be a calmer and blessed year.
GET OUT AND VOTE
Dear Editor:
We just had primaries this past Tuesday. I feel that our community does not take voting seriously. We don’t go out and vote and expect our elected officials to work on our behalf. The only way they will work on our behalf is if we come out and vote in large numbers so they politicians will see that we are a force to be reckoned with.
Boruch D
Editors Note: I agree with you. Someone once said, “Vote early and vote often.” Just kidding! We are not condoning voter fraud…
SHARING PHOTOS FOR A SHIDDUCH
Dear Editor:
I am looking for answers to the shidduch crisis like many others out there. One thing that bothers me is that people will not let their child go out unless they see a picture of the boy or girl first. What happened to personality and all the other chemistry that goes into a prospective couple. Why are we following the goyim who look for glamor? We need to stop demeaning our boys and girls and stop sending pictures around.
Bracha P
Editor’s Note: This is definitely a problem. It’s a shame that our generation has lowered itself to such a degree. We should be rising above all this nonsense to help create Jewish homes and not marrying for the wrong reasons.
MEASURING HAIR LENGTH REVISTED
Dear Editor:
Your letter intrigued me last week about a school that measured the girls’ hair length. I got caught in the malady of our generation, which is to run to see the next sensational video clip that everyone is sharing. I have a few points of my own I would like to share with you after watching this clip.
First of all, what fool would upload that clip to the web? We have no idea what really was going on there and therefore the school is most definitely going to be misrepresented when we are watching it.
Secondly, in the letter printed last week, the letter writer commented on the length of the woman’s shaitel who was doing the measuring. Does that person really think her shaitel is too long? Does she/his wife wear a chin length shaitel that he/she is writing that hers is too long? I don’t believe anybody would really consider a shoulder length shaitel to be too long.
It sounds to me that whoever wrote that letter has some issues they need to straighten out and right now this video clip spurred on some negative speech about a school they know nothing about.
May we all view things in a positive light and judge others favorably so Hashem, the Ultimate Authority, will judge us favorably.
Chaya Stein
Editor’s Note: How appropriate this letter is right before Rosh Hashana when we all would like to be judged favorably.
MEASURING HAIR LENGTH REVISTED
Dear Editor:
Hi. I just want to comment on the letter written about measuring hair length. I agree with your answer, but I was wondering why you did not address the issue of the woman behind the desk who did the measuring and had a shaitel that was very long, longer than the amount that she allowed the girls to have. Thank you.
Editor’s Note: Read the above letter and response.
HOMEWORK EXCESS
Dear Editor:
My kid is drowning in homework. Every teacher gives homework in their subject. I feel as if my child spends another day at school every night in my kitchen.
Something needs to be done about this.
Shaindy Lichter
Editor’s Note: In a normal situation, homework should not take that long. If your child can’t complete his homework in a timely fashion, I would suggest you speak to the teacher about modifying his/her workload.
LEAVING FAMILY FOR YOM TOV
Dear Editor:
Why are there men leaving their families and going to a different country for Rosh Hashana? I don’t understand this craziness. Why should women be left with their children and the husbands fly across the Atlantic Ocean to daven. Isn’t Hashem everywhere?
A lonely Flatbush Wife
Editor’s Note: Hashem is here, Hashem is there, Hashem is truly everywhere. One can daven everywhere.