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    SPEAK YOUR VUES WITH THE VUES MASTER

    BEST IGROS
    Dear Vues Master,
    Last week’s fun question in The Jewish Vues about your

    favorite Igros Moshe was a classic — absolutely fantas-
    tic. My rebbe brought it to yeshiva, and we went over all

    the answers from the different rabbanim. Each answer was
    better than the next. We are truly fortunate to have had the
    gadol, Rav Moshe Feinstein ZT”L, in our generation. May
    his neshama have an aliyah on his yahrtzeit, which falls on
    Taanis Esther.
    RRF
    Vues Master’s Note: Great question and amazing answers! I
    really enjoyed it myself!

    SHABBOS LUNCH COMPANY
    Dear Vues Master,
    If my shul service on Shabbos morning ends at 11:00 AM
    and we invite company over for lunch, is it wrong to tell

    them that we are starting lunch at noon? This past Shab-
    bos, we had to wait for our guests to arrive until 1:00 PM.

    I really wanted to take a nap, but by the time the meal was
    over, it was already after 4:00 PM. I promised my son I
    would learn with him on Shabbos afternoon, so I didn’t get
    any rest. When I don’t get sleep on Shabbos afternoon, I’m
    exhausted for the entire week. I told my wife I don’t want to
    invite anyone for lunch anymore, and she’s not happy with
    me. What should I do?
    GT

    Vues Master’s Note: There needs to be some sort of com-
    promise. There are therapists who specialize in situations

    like this!

    DID YOU KNOW?
    Dear Vues Master,
    Did you know?
    1-Only Megillas Esther is referred to as a “megillah” in
    Chazal (both in Gemara Bavli & Yerushalmi). The other
    four scrolls are never called a megillah.

    2- There is a machlokes about whether the minhag of bang-
    ing (making noise when Haman’s name is mentioned) is for

    children only (according to Maharil) or for adults as well
    (according to Chacham Tzvi).

    3- Some have the minhag to bang only when Haman is men-
    tioned as “Haman, the son of Hamdata.”

    4- According to the Targum Sheni, the 50-cubit pole on
    which Haman was hanged came from Noach’s Teivah.

    5- The name of the horse that Mordechai rode on was She-
    fargaz (translated as “super gas” or “safer gas” in the Tar-
    gum Sheni).

    6-The Tur quotes one of the Geonim who said to recite
    Tachanun on Purim.
    7- According to the Meggilas Esther, one may not fast on the
    13th of Adar, which is Taanit Esther, the day before Purim.
    8- The total number of words in Megillat Esther is an odd
    number.
    9- Esther and Haman are both mentioned 55 times in the
    Megillah (according to the Rokeach).
    Vues Master’s Note: Well, now I do know it!

    HAPPINESS
    Dear Vues Master,
    There is a fascinating story about Reb Yonason Eibshitz.
    When he was a young boy in yeshiva, he made a lot of noise
    in class during the month of Adar. His rebbi couldn’t stop
    him, so he had no choice but to go to Reb Yonason’s father,
    who was the Rav of the town.
    His father came to the cheder, and Reb Yonason was quiet.
    His father asked him why he had been so jumpy and loud.
    Reb Yonason responded, “Mishenichnas Adar, Marbim
    B’simcha.” (When the month of Adar begins, we increase in
    joy.) “I have a chiyuv (obligation) to be joyful.”
    Reb Yonason continued, “Divrei HaRav u’Divrei
    HaTalmid—my mitzvah comes before the rebbe’s.”
    The father then asked, “Why are you quiet now?”
    Reb Yonason answered, “Mishenichnas Av, Mema’atin
    B’simcha.” (When the month of Av begins, we decrease in
    joy.)
    Vues Master’s Note: Do you think his father laughed, or did
    he give him a smack?

    PURIM TORAH
    Dear Vues Master
    King Achashverosh was *Finnish* with his disobedient
    wife Vashti. “You *Congo* now!” he ordered her. After she
    had *Ghana* way, the king’s messengers went *Roman*

    the land to find a new queen. *Iran* around all over and *In-
    dia* end, the beautiful Esther won the crown. Meanwhile,

    Mordechai sat outside the palace, where the *Chile* Haman

    would *Czech* up on him daily. “I *Haiti*

    you because you refuse to bow to me!” Ha-
    man scolded Mordechai. “*USA* very stub-
    born man. You Jews are such *Bahamas*! If

    you keep this up, *Denmark* my words! I will
    have all your people killed! Just *Kuwait*
    and see, you *Turkey*! “ Mordechai went
    into mourning and tore his clothes–a custom
    known as *Korea*. He urged Esther to plead
    with the king. The Jews fasted for three days
    and grew very *Hungary*. Esther approached
    the king and asked, ‘*Kenya* *Belize* come

    to a banquet I’ve prepared for you and Ha-
    man?” At the feast, she invited her guests to

    a second banquet to eat *Samoa*. The king
    asked, “Esther, why *Jamaica* big meal like
    this? Just tell me what you want. Up to half

    my *United Kingdom* will I give you.” Es-
    ther replied, “*Spain* full for me to say this,

    but Haman is *Russian* to kill my people.”
    Haman’s loud *Wales* could be heard as he
    carried *Honduran* this scene. “*Oman*!”
    Haman cried bitterly. “*Iraq* my brains in
    an effort to destroy the Jews. But that sneaky
    Mordechai – *Egypt* me! “ Haman and his ten
    sons were hanged and went immediately to the
    *Netherlands*. And to *Sweden* the deal, the
    Jews were allowed to *Polish* off the rest
    of their foes as well. “You lost your enemies

    and *Uganda* friend,” the king smiled. And
    that is why the Purim story Israeli a miracle.
    G-d decided to *China* light on His chosen
    people. So now, let’s celebrate! Forget all your
    *Syria’s* business and just be happy! *Serb*
    up some wine and **Taiwan**on !! Happy
    Purim!!!
    Country Yossi
    Vues Master’s Note: Great Purim Torah

    HAPPY
    Dear Vues Master, I know it’s the month of
    Adar, and I’m supposed to be happy, but I’m
    finding it very difficult with everything going
    on in this crazy world. It feels like World War

    III is about to start with all the chaos happen-
    ing. How can I enjoy Purim this year?” RDF

    Vues Master’s Note: I would be happy to help
    you with that. Happiness is something that
    comes from within. Even an avel (mourner)
    can find joy in the fact that they are fulfilling
    the mitzvah of aveilus. Try to focus on the
    good things, and find reasons to be happy!

    MUSIC
    Dear Vues Master:
    I just came back from a chasuna and the noise
    was insanely loud. Am I the only one that
    thinks that? I feel like it’s getting louder &
    louder.
    GH
    Vues Master’s Note: Or is it your hearing that
    is going?

    AN OPEN LETTER FROM A FRUS-
    TRATED SHADCHAN

    Dear Vues Master:
    It’s so hard to please anyone these days!!!
    Here is a partial list of my clients… I couldn’t
    even get them one date, and that’s why I’m

    finally quitting and going into the pickle busi-
    ness.

    Avraham Avinu: How can you recommend
    him to my daughter? Wasn’t he involved in a
    family feud with his father over some idols?
    Then he left home without a GPS or a viable
    business plan!

    Yitzchak Avinu: His brother is an Arab terror-
    ist!!!

    Rivka Imeinu: Sorry, she seems nice, but did
    you hear about her mishpucha??? Her father’s

    a murderer, and her brother’s a Ponzi scam art-
    ist…

    Yaakov Avinu: Okay, he sits and learns all
    day… but his brother is a no-goodnik. And
    anyway, we heard he has a limp…
    Leah Imeinu: Her father’s a con artist, and she
    has ophthalmological problems. Maybe it’s
    genetic?

    Moshe Rabbeinu: Are you kidding? His par-
    ents are divorced! And worse… they remar-
    ried! And we hear he’s in speech therapy…

    King David: How dare you suggest him to
    our yichusdike family? Our neighbor Yenti

    told us that his great-grandmother was a gi-
    yoret!!!

    Chava: Do you know anything about her
    family? We’ve never heard of them. No one
    knows where she came from, and she can’t
    come up with any referrals!
    (Please, chevra, judge the person for who
    they are, not their family. You’re marrying
    the person, not the family. You’re building
    your home together, not trying to please your

    neighbors. And finally, remember: If you are
    in this world, you’re not perfect, and neither
    is your spouse.)
    PD
    Vues Master’s Note: Well if Avraham Avinu
    would be around today he might not wear a
    black hat!

    WATCH YOUR CHILDREN
    Dear Vues Master:
    Please watch your children. The other day, I
    was driving and almost hit a toddler who was
    crossing the street by himself. The mother
    came running after him!
    Our children are too precious, and just because
    the weather is getting nicer, we must still keep
    a close eye on them. -BI
    Vues Master’s Note: I feel like every time I

    try to lose track of my child, they always man-
    age to find their way back. I guess no one else

    wants them!

    CORRESPONDENCE BETWEEN
    COUNTRY YOSSI & A FAN
    Dear Country Yossi,

    I absolutely love your music! I grew up listen-
    ing to Kivi & Tuki, and now I’m sharing them

    with my kids. Thank you so much – you’ve
    taught us so much over the years.
    I recently heard the “And Then He Potched
    Me” song, and I must admit, it really upset
    me. What on earth is that about? Your songs
    are typically so educational, filled with great
    humor and music, so I’m confused by what
    seems like a song about a Rebbe and a parent
    doing the wrong thing. What is it doing in your
    collection of songs?

    Thank you for taking the time to read my let-
    ter. I’m just a concerned fan, and I really ap-
    preciate your response.

    Warmly, Dr. Annette Stone Manchester, Eng-
    land

    ________________________________
    Response from Country Yossi:
    Dear Dr. Annette,
    Thank you for your heartfelt letter and your

    sincere inquiry! As you may not know, the
    song in question was written back in the
    1960s, when the educational approach in the
    yeshivas we attended – as well as in many
    frum homes – was often “potch first, discuss
    later.”
    Many of the Rabbeim, teachers, and parents
    at the time were Holocaust survivors, and
    the methods they used to maintain discipline
    were harsh, to say the least, by today’s more
    enlightened standards. Corporal punishment
    was unfortunately a preferred method.
    So, while the song reflects that reality, it is

    now a rather unpleasant snapshot of a mind-
    set that thankfully no longer exists. I hope

    that by hearing it, today’s students will real-
    ize how fortunate they are to be living in an

    era of loving, caring, supportive, and well-
    trained teachers and Rabbeim.

    Thanks again for your thoughtful input. I
    truly appreciate it!
    Stay well, and keep enjoying the music.
    Country Yossi
    ________________________________
    Dear Country Yossi,
    How incredibly kind of you to reply. I really
    appreciate your honest answer.
    Are you the Country Yossi who actually sings
    the songs? You could never know the ripple
    effects of the tremendous impact you’ve had
    on me and so many others.
    All my kids know the sedras because of your
    songs, sing your Alef Beis song, know the
    months of the year, and understand that הוא
    means “he,” all thanks to you. My son laughs
    so much about the “pickles on your head”
    part, and just imagine how many aveiros have
    been avoided because of your message about
    the Yetzer Hara being a real “mean guy.”
    The joy created by Tuki’s antics is amazing,

    and your influence on kids and future genera-
    tions has been so holy and impactful.

    Thank you so much, and tizku lemitzvos!
    Warmly, Dr. Annette Stone

    SHIDDUCHIM CRISIS
    (This letter was originally in yeshivaworld.com)
    Dear Vues Master
    In response to a yeshivaworld.
    com mailbag letter from “A

    Hopeful Jew,” who wrote a let-
    ter alleging that bochurim only

    wanting to date younger girls,

    I have to say—I get the frustra-
    tion. I really do. But frustration

    doesn’t justify spreading mis-
    information about the shidduch

    crisis, especially when we finally
    have a real, data-backed plan to
    address the issue. The last thing

    we need is for misleading narratives to derail
    efforts that can make an actual difference.
    Our approach to the shidduch crisis cannot
    be about feelings, speculation, or half-baked
    theories. They must be about cold, hard facts.
    The OU’s Center for Communal Research,
    commissioned by The Shidduch Institute, has
    provided real numbers that expose the myths
    plaguing the conversation. And it’s time we
    faced them.

    For years, people have thrown around exag-
    gerated claims about the so-called “age gap.”

    Five or six years? That’s simply not true. The
    median age gap between husbands and wives
    is two years—and even the average is only
    2.5 years. The idea that 24- or 25-year-old
    bochurim categorically refuse to date girls
    their age is just false.
    Now, let’s talk about the actual “crisis.” The
    actuarial models show that, due to the age
    gap, between 2.5% and 6.2% of women may
    struggle to find a spouse within the sample
    population. That number isn’t pulled out of
    thin air—it’s backed by research (Table 3).
    More importantly, there’s a clear solution:

    closing the age gap to one year would virtu-
    ally eliminate the imbalance. That’s exactly

    what the Gedolim are trying to accomplish.
    There’s another painful truth: More boys than
    girls leave Yiddishkeit or drift away from the
    yeshivish world. It’s an unfortunate reality
    that further skews the numbers.
    The math is simple:
    If 3% of men leave, the female surplus rises
    to 5.3%. If 5% leave, it jumps to 7.2%. If
    10% leave, an alarming 12% of women could

    be left without a spouse in the sample popula-
    tion (Table 4).

    This is not a game. These are real lives at
    stake.
    Another major problem? The assumption that
    there are enough full-time learners for every
    girl who wants one. There aren’t.
    Here’s how the numbers break down:
    Ages 18-20: 96% of bochurim are learning

    full-time. Ages 21-23: 83% are still in learn-
    ing. Ages 24-26: That number drops to 72%.

    Ages 27-29: Now, it’s only 41%. Ages 30+:

    A mere 17% are still in full-time learning
    (Table 5).
    If every girl who’s open to either a learner
    or a worker marries a learner, what happens
    to the girls who will only marry a full-time
    learner? There won’t be enough left. That’s
    a reality no one wants to face—but it’s real.

    Some are trying to paint this initiative as un-
    fairly targeting girls, telling them to “sit and

    wait.” That’s just nonsense. The real plan
    calls for girls to start shidduchim slightly

    later AND for bochurim to head to Eretz Yis-
    roel earlier—shrinking the age gap from two

    years to one. This isn’t about “buying time.”
    It’s about fixing a systemic imbalance.
    And let’s be honest—only about 20% of girls
    get married in their first year of dating. That
    first year doesn’t necessarily start right after
    seminary, either. Many already delay starting

    shidduchim on their own. The adjustment be-
    ing proposed isn’t some radical overhaul; it’s

    a strategic shift that can drastically improve
    the numbers.
    Most boys don’t start shidduchim until they
    return from Eretz Yisroel at 23 or 24. So when
    a 21-year-old girl is struggling to find dates, it
    doesn’t mean there’s no one for her—it often
    just means that her future chosson isn’t even
    in America yet.
    That’s not a shidduch crisis. That’s a dating
    crisis. And the plan proposed by the gedolim
    addresses it by ensuring the numbers align
    better in the coming years.
    No one is claiming this plan is perfect. But
    there is a stark reality we cannot ignore: If
    we don’t follow our leaders and Gedolim, we
    don’t have a solution.

    This is the first time a research-backed ap-
    proach has been put forward to actually solve

    the crisis at its root. And instead of rallying
    behind it, some people are looking for ways
    to tear it down. That’s not just irresponsible—
    it’s dangerous.
    If this plan isn’t
    implemented,
    we already

    know what hap-
    pens: more un-
    married women,

    more families
    struggling, and
    more pain. If
    we stand in the

    way of this ef-
    fort—whether

    by publicly
    opposing it or

    spreading misin-
    formation—we

    will carry an un-
    bearable burden.

    History will judge us. Beis Din Shel Maala
    will judge us.
    Did we help or hurt the efforts to solve this
    crisis? The answer is up to us.
    A final, painful question: What happens to the
    older singles already in the system?
    The study doesn’t say that 2.5% to 6% (or
    even 10%) of girls will remain unmarried. It
    says that, based on the numbers, they may not
    find a spouse within mainstream yeshivish
    circles. That doesn’t mean they won’t get

    married. Many find their matches in Chassi-
    dish, Modern Orthodox, or previously mar-
    ried individuals.

    But that doesn’t mean we can let the system
    keep running on autopilot. That would be

    irresponsible. Chazal and Rishonim empha-
    size the importance of marrying within one’s

    hashkafic circles. It is our duty—halachical-
    ly, communally, and ethically—to act.

    The bottom line is that the conversation
    around the shidduch crisis is too important
    to be hijacked by misinformation. It’s time to

    stop arguing over anecdotes and start listen-
    ing to the facts.

    The plan before us has the backing of data. It
    has the backing of Gedolim. It makes sense.
    And if we implement it, we can make a real
    difference.
    The choice is simple: Do we stand in the way,
    or do we stand together to solve this crisis?
    Signed,
    Akiva Kleinberg
    Vues Master’s Note: Thank you for sharing
    this thoughtful and data-driven perspective.
    The proposed plan, backed by research and
    the guidance of Gedolim, offers a practical
    approach to addressing the shidduch crisis.
    It’s crucial we work together to implement

    solutions based on facts, ensuring the well-
    being of our community.