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    Dear Vues Master
    What should I do? My wife wants to go away for
    Pesach & we just can’t afford it. I understand that it’s
    a lot of work & I really try to help her but it still falls
    mostly on her. What should I do?
    Vues Master’s Note: Good Question! Talk it over with
    your wife and explain to her we can’t afford it and
    that you need to marry off your kids etc. Hopefully
    she will understand!
    Dear Vues Master

    I can’t believe how much I just spent on a Sheva Bra-
    chos. The wedding cost me over $75k & I didn’t pre-
    pare to spend $15k plus on a Sheva Brachos. This is

    really getting out of hand.

    Vues Master’s Note: It sure beats spending for a le-

    Dear Vues Master
    My favorite Yom Tov is Purim. My family gets
    dressed up & the whole day is a lot of fun. My wife
    really wants to go to someone else’s seudah this year
    in Teaneck & I don’t want to leave my family &
    friends in Brooklyn. What should we do?
    Vues Master’s Note: Maybe do one year this way and
    one year the other way!
    Dear Vues Master
    Thank you for giving front page coverage to the Ramot

    tragedy. Certainly, the magnitude of such a tragedy war-
    rants such attention. If I may, however, I would like to raise

    a question for us to consider- at such a heart-wrenching time
    in their lives, do the family members sitting shiva: a) want
    their pictures taken, and b) do they want their pictures put
    on the front page, or on any page for that matter? I think we
    can assume not. Thank you for a very worthy publication.

    Vues Master’s Note: If they don’t see it and it helps
    other people to use it for introspection one can argue
    that it is OK.
    Dear Vues Master
    A woman asked her husband: “If you saw me with
    another man, what would you do?” “I would break his
    cane and kill his dog,” he replied. “What makes you
    think he would have a cane and a dog?” she asked.

    “Only a blind man would be attracted to you,” he re-

    Vues Master’s Note: I guess this couple is a lesson of
    how marriage is supposed to be like. No way!
    Dear Vues Master
    A woman once approached Rabbi Soloveitchik of
    Brisk with a strange question. She wanted to know
    whether someone could use milk instead of wine
    for the four cups at the Seder, since she simply
    couldn’t afford the wine. He responded by giving
    her an especially large amount of money. One of
    the Rabbi’s students asked him, “I understand you
    gave her money because she can’t afford the wine,
    but why so much?” The Rabbi explained, “If she
    wants to drink milk at the Seder, it is obvious she
    has no meat for Pesach” (since the laws of kashrut
    forbid the mixing of milk and meat). “So I gave

    her enough to buy both wine and meat for the en-
    tire Yom Tov.” The other day a man approached

    his Rabbi, and wanted to know if he could take his
    son to the Prospect Park Zoo instead of the Bronx

    Zoo during the middle days of Pesach. So this Rab-
    bi gave the man a few thousand dollars. His wife

    asked him, “Why so much?” The Rabbi replied that
    if the man wants to take his child to the Prospect

    Park Zoo, it’s obvious he can’t afford to go to Or-
    lando for Pesach.

    Vues Master’s Note: Maybe you should tell that to the
    other letter titled Pesach

    Dear Vues Master

    A toxic spill has drawn the nation’s at-
    tention to the little town of East Pales-
    tine, Ohio, just as another tragedy, the

    explosion of the space shuttle Colum-
    bia in 2003, turned the nation’s gaze

    upon the town of Palestine, Texas,
    where much of the debris landed. The
    tragic spotlight now shining on Ohio’s
    “East Palestine” naturally leaves some
    people curious as to why it has such an
    unusual name. The answer is that it’s

    not a very unusual name at all. Else-
    where in Ohio, there are towns named

    Hebron, Gilboa, Canaan, and Shiloh
    (two of them, in fact). There’s even a

    Sodom, which was given its name af-
    ter a prohibition advocate, disappoint-
    ed at the small turnout for his lecture

    in 1840, jokingly compared the locale
    to that infamous biblical center of sin.
    In Texas, in addition to Palestine, there
    are towns named Hebbronville and
    Joshua. There is a Hebron in North
    Dakota and a Sinai in South Dakota,
    a Jerusalem in Arkansas, a Jericho in
    Vermont, a Bethlehem as well as a
    Nazareth in Pennsylvania, and a Zion
    in Maryland. Nearly every state has

    one or more towns named after bib-
    lical sites or individuals. Altogether,

    there are more than 1,000 biblically-
    named towns from coast to coast.

    Towns such as East Palestine, Ohio,

    were established by 19th-century re-
    ligious Christian settlers; they chose

    those names to express their spiritual
    attachment to the land and people of

    the Bible. When they thought of Pal-
    estine, they recalled the Jewish king-
    doms and temples of ancient times,

    as well as the events surrounding the
    origins of Christianity in the Jewish
    town of Bethlehem. In their prayers,
    they prayed for the return of the Jews

    to the Holy Land, which they under-
    stood to be inextricably linked to the

    coming messianic age. The area that
    became East Palestine was originally
    known as Mechanicsburg. There are
    a number of towns in the U.S. that
    were originally settled by mechanics
    of various types. But in the case of
    Ohio, “Mechanicsburg” was changed

    in 1836 because—according to an ear-
    ly history of the region—“the wife of

    Dr. Robert Chamberlin desired a more
    euphonious appellation and desired it

    [be] called ‘Palestine,’ the quiet beau-
    ty of the little town, and the earnest,

    virtuous, simple life of its people sug-
    gesting to her a name recalling holy

    memories.” Since there already was a

    town named “Palestine” in the west-
    ern part of the state—likewise found-
    ed by religious Christians who wanted

    to infuse their town with “holy memo-
    ries”—government officials, in assign-
    ing the new post office, added the pre-
    fix “East.” That early account of East

    Palestine’s founding was published
    in 1905, when it was common for a
    married woman’s name to be hidden

    behind that of her husband. But a his-
    torical marker in front of the log house

    where the Chamberlains once lived
    tells us that the name of the doctor’s
    wife was Rebecca—an appropriately
    biblical name for a woman who took
    her Bible seriously. Not surprisingly,
    numerous churches quickly sprung up

    in East Palestine and its environs. Lu-
    theran and Reformed congregations

    established the Salem Church, choos-
    ing a name derived from “Jerusalem.”

    Evangelical Lutherans founded the St.
    Paul’s Evangelical Lutheran Church,
    while Methodists originally held their

    services in a local school—the sepa-
    ration between church and state was

    still rather fuzzy in those days—be-
    fore eventually erecting their Method-
    ist Episcopal Church. East Palestine

    also had a United Presbyterian Church
    and, later, another house of worship
    with a biblically-inspired name, the
    Zion Evangelical Lutheran Church.
    When America’s religious Christian
    settlers thought of the Holy Land, they
    thought of the Hebrew bible and the

    area’s 3,000 years of Jewish inhabita-
    tion, not the Koran or the more recent-
    ly-arrived Arab residents of the area.

    They thought of the many Jews who
    appear in the accounts of the birth of
    Christianity (including its founder),

    texts that do not mention any Palestin-
    ian Arabs. Certainly Americans were

    aware that there were Arabs living in
    Palestine in the 19th century. Mark
    Twain, for example, had mentioned
    them in his account of his visit to the

    Holy Land, The Innocents Abroad
    (1869). So had Herman Melville in
    his famous Clarel: A Poem and the
    Pilgrimage in the Holy Land (1876).
    But it was common knowledge that
    the Arab population of Palestine was
    relatively small and unsettled, and
    that the Arab residents of 19th-century
    Palestine regarded themselves as part
    of southern Syria, not as a separate
    nationality. H. Allen Tupper, Jr. wrote
    in the New York Times in 1896, after
    having “ridden on horseback more

    than four hundred miles through Pal-
    estine and Syria,” that virtually the

    only local people he encountered were
    “merchantmen with their long camel
    trains” and “wild Bedouin tribes” that
    “reside in one locality not more than

    two months.” Today’s residents pro-
    nounce East Palestine “Palesteen,”

    but the original settlers undoubtedly
    pronounced it the more common way.
    Because it was the Holy Land, with its
    deep Jewish roots, that burned bright

    in the hearts and prayers of the found-
    ers of the many biblically-named

    towns across America. And it is for
    the same reason that Bible-believing

    Christians today—probably includ-
    ing more than a few residents of East

    Palestine, Ohio—constitute one of the
    major sources of pro-Israel sentiment
    in the United States.
    Rafael Medoff
    Vues Master’s Note: As Usual Thanks
    for the history lesson!
    Dear Vues Master
    A Frenchman, a German and a Jew
    walk into a bar. “I’m tired and thirsty,”
    says the Frenchman. “I must have
    wine.” “I’m tired and thirsty, as well,”
    says the German. “I must have beer.”
    “I’m tired and thirsty,” says the Jew. “I
    must have diabetes.”
    Vues Master’s Note: Wow sounds like

    he needs Chicken soup Jewish Penicil-

    Dear Vues Master

    The Gemara emphasized the impor-
    tance of reading Megilat Esther on

    Purim in its original language and the
    original script it was written in. This

    is different from other areas of Jew-
    ish law, especially areas dealing with

    publicizing a miracle. When publiciz-
    ing the miracle of the Pesach exodus by

    reading the Haggadah, the language it’s
    read in isn’t important, understanding
    the miracle is the priority. Why is it that
    Megilat Esther is different and must be
    read in its original language and the
    original script it was written in? The

    Chofetz Chaim discouraged the chang-
    ing of prayers in shul to a different lan-
    guage. He had seen in his time that com-
    munities in Europe were beginning to

    use local translations of the prayers and
    instead of reciting them in Hebrew, as
    the custom was traditionally since after

    the destruction of the first Beis Hamik-
    dash, they had begun reciting them in

    German, Polish, etc. It’s important to

    keep the prayers in shul in Hebrew (al-
    though in one’s own davening any lan-
    guage is acceptable) because language

    is strongly tied to culture. The congre-
    gation’s change to a different language

    from Hebrew is a break from the tradi-
    tional past of the Jews in Eretz Yisrael

    and transforms Judaism into a religion
    of exile. Keeping prayers to traditional
    Hebrew puts a priority on returning to
    Eretz Yisrael. The Purim miracle was

    that the Jews were tempted to assimi-
    late into the Babylonian culture of the

    land they were exiled to after the de-
    struction of the first Beis Hamikdash

    and were saved. Haman wanted the
    Jews to bow to him and to Babylonian
    culture. Mordechai refused to bow, not

    just to Haman, but to Babylonian cul-
    ture. The Megillah is read in its original

    language and the original script it was
    written in to emphasize the miracle of
    Purim saving us from assimilation.
    Vues Master’s Note: Thanks for voirt!
    Dear Vues Master

    “I saved a few dollars today,” a wom-
    an said to her husband. “I saw the bus

    from a distance and ran to catch it,
    but it took off before I could reach it.
    So I walked and saved the bus fare.”
    “Nice,” her husband said. “However,
    it’s a shame that you didn’t run after a
    taxi. You could have saved a lot more.”
    Vues Master’s Note: I would have told
    her to chase a helicopter!

    Dear Vues Master
    I object to the Rosh Yeshiva’s notion
    that the baton of emunah (faith) and
    mesora (tradition) has been given over
    from father to rabbi. If so, it was done
    unknowingly or worse he was coaxed
    to do so. This article demonstrates how
    children are seamlessly taken away
    from their parents. The students are
    surreptitiously taught while they are

    young and trusting or old and rebel-
    lious that their parents are outdated and

    disposable. It is not hard to fathom how
    such ideas can be taught in the frum
    world because the country we live in
    espouses parental alienation and those
    who have power and know the truth are
    afraid to speak up. One person told me
    that he spoke to a gadol about helping
    his alienated child by making a phone
    call to a rabbi and he said, “What can I
    do, I can’t fix the world.” No, you are
    not obligated to fix the world, you are
    obligated to do what you can, and leave
    it to G-d to fix. Make a call, one child
    at a time, and show G-d that you are on
    board. If you are not actively making
    peace between child and father at least
    do not berate the one who is. There are

    two philosophies on how to handle pa-
    rental alienation, one is that the father

    has to kowtow and the other is that the
    father has to straighten. I take the latter
    approach, which is uncommon, so you
    might disagree with me but our goals
    are the same. I appreciate constructive
    criticism, perhaps one day he will pick
    this up and rethink what his father has
    to say. Regarding the recent remarks
    on the one sided theme I write about
    I will quote my Rav. Rav Brevda gave
    a three hour shiur once a week and he
    would occasionally apologize, when it
    was close to midnight, and say, “What
    can I do, I only have one day a week to
    clean up last week’s rubbish.” My work
    is less than a three minute read and on
    a topic that is hardly called out like
    “Not talking in shul.” G-d would prefer
    that a son go to his father’s house and
    talk then go to His house and not talk.
    If I scream it is because I’m not being
    heard. I reached out to my son’s RY
    dozens of times and he ignored me. So
    any finger pointing should be at him,
    not me. He can resolve this because he
    is not obligated to keep a student that is

    a thorn in his side.
    Vues Master’s Note: The more you
    scream the less chances you have to get
    Dear Vues Master
    (Shemos 20:12) The Chazon Ish once

    visited a yeshiva ketana to test the stu-
    dents. The students were awed by the

    great leader’s presence. He noticed one
    of the boys whispering to the rebbe but
    the rebbe silenced the boy. The Chazon

    Ish asked if the student wanted some-
    thing. The rebbe sheepishly nodded his

    head. “What would you like?” he asked
    the boy. The boy shyly asked, “How can
    I become a Chazon Ish too?” The sage
    thought a bit, and then he said, “If you
    honor your parents like I did, then you
    can become like me too!” The Chazon

    Ish was exemplary in honoring his par-
    ents. He was once suffering such excru-
    ciating pain from a kidney stone that he

    could hardly move. Suddenly he heard
    his elderly mother coming. Quickly
    he straightened himself and continued
    studying aloud as if nothing was wrong,

    in order to prevent his mother from see-
    ing his pain. The Chazon Ish did not at-
    tribute his great accomplishments to his

    genius, or to the extraordinary efforts
    he put into studying; not to his prayers,
    nor to his abstinence from luxuries. He
    attributed it primarily to the honor he
    showed his parents!
    – R. E. Nisenbaum
    The Kotzker’s Yahrzeit
    The Kotzker Rebbe states that it is
    natural that the love of a father for his
    son greatly exceeds the feelings of the
    son for his father. Indeed, it is said that
    one father can tend to the needs of ten
    children, but ten children cannot tend
    to the needs of one father. It is told that

    an elderly man once came to the Kotz-
    ker, pouring his heart out how impov-
    erished he was and yet his children, for

    whom he sacrificed a lifetime, and who
    were quite well off, did not look after
    his needs. “How can this be?” he cried
    to the Rebbe. The Rebbe responded,
    “Why the wonder? We see this clearly
    in the Torah, when Binyamin is held by
    Yosef, Yehuda pleads for mercy, lest the
    elderly father will die. Why not plead
    for Binyamin’s children who won’t
    survive their father’s loss? “From here

    we see that parents are filled with much
    greater pain for their children’s tzaros,

    than vice versa.” From this, the Kotz-
    ker Rebbe derived the truism that, “…

    parents have more compassion for their
    children than children have for their
    parents.” A child will rebel against his
    parents, but a parent will stay true to

    his child – regardless of behavior, fail-
    ing or circumstance. Is this not just like

    God, the Kotzker taught? Is this not

    exactly like our ultimate Father’s devo-
    tion to us? We rebel. We fall short. We

    fail. Our shortcomings hurt our Father
    deeply and cause Him suffering. But
    He never turns away!
    – R.E. Safran
    Vues Master’s Note: You write about
    one thing only! I feel for you because
    no one is going to listen to you!
    Dear Vues Master
    I was surprised to see the answers to
    the fun question. What quality is most
    important for a president to exhibit?
    We got all kinds of answers, but the
    most important one nobody mentioned.
    That is “BRAINS”. How come nobody
    answered that?
    Vues Master’s Note: I guess seichel
    comes at a premium. Hence the phrase

    why is common sense not common any-

    Dear Vues Master
    I was a bit disappointed to see last
    week’s Jewish Vues. A whole issue
    dedicated to the Superbowl?! Are these

    people who we look up to? You want
    to speak about it? Fine. But don’t start
    being machshiv it. Show more respect
    to our gedolim. Now that I am writing
    this, it would be a good time to bring up
    another point. In the Yom Kippur issue,
    there was an article about the 3 dinner
    guests’ questions. On the same page

    you put a picture of Rav Dovid Fein-
    stein ZT’’L and lihadil, football player

    Sandy Kofax. (I only know the name
    because I say it in the article). Not
    only that, but the picture of the football
    player was a nice big picture while the
    picture of Rav Dovid was this small
    picture in the corner. I don’t care if the
    article was mainly about that football
    player. That is not the way to do things.
    It is time that the Vues start showing
    the right respect to the right people.
    P.S. I am not a Lakewooder and I am
    not such a yeshivish guy, But rather
    someone who cares about the respect
    of our gedolim. Vues Master’s Note:
    WOAH! You put a lot of thought into
    this letter!
    Dear Vues Master

    When I tried ordering from Sports Illus-
    trated the Super Bowl issue, I was told

    it would take 2-3 weeks for delivery. I
    told them never mind, I’ll try ordering
    instead from China, since they’ll send
    it faster by Balloon! Lol
    Vues Master’s Note: This joke just blew
    up in my face. Eh! It is a bunch of hot